A decision to seek a counselling / psychotherapy session is usually initiated by an uncomfortable life situation. Perhaps you regularly feel tense, angry, sad, anxious or disappointed. Soul Focused Psychotherapy allows a safe, non-judgemental exploration of the part of you that feels unhappy. It promotes a deeper self-understanding of your feelings and thoughts, so that next time these feelings/thoughts arise you develop the awareness and the skills to move towards a more empowered behaviour. (instead of reacting with anger, you manage to stay neutral) You start to shift from ‘personalising’ situations to an impartial experiencing of situations.
Communication difficulties are generally at the core of most stressors. This may include your partner, boss, children, friends or family. There are many common themes here. You may feel that you are not appreciated or valued, you may be on the other end of blame, or be involved in angry exchanges. You may feel you are shouldering more of the household responsibilities, being bullied verbally or physically, or not being respected. There can be a sense of overwhelm, withdrawal, confusion, anger or multiple combinations of these negative feelings. A sense of helplessness can arise. Any attempt at conversation seems to end in anger, sadness or frustration. Sound familiar?
Often, you will be completely unaware that you have behaviours that contribute to your problems, prior to having a session. Finding these behaviours can be a relief and open the door to a vastly improved way of living and relating with others. Flow on effects from this therapy may include a more relaxed and appreciative view of life, better sleep and improved communication with those close to you. Instead of chewing over hurts and limiting beliefs, energy can be directed into enjoying life and seeing it as a range of learning opportunities and new experiences. (Challenges to help you grow as a person, rather than negative experiences that hurt you.) You may feel an increase in energy as a result of a shift in perspective from negative to positive.
How long does it take to make progress with your issues? That depends on many factors. Sometimes it may take you one session, but if the issue is complex or long running it may require a number of sessions. My aim is to have you back to a happier life as quickly as possible.